Sorority, Sex and Regrets
Friday, February 1, 2008
What makes fraternities and sororities so popular? The unmistakable sexual energy in the greek houses? The wild parties? The ample supply of alochol? The need to be part of an alliance?
For one young woman who just turned 18, she relied on her sisters for nurturing and intimacy. Soon after joining the sorority, she lost her virginity to a frat member, in a "non traditional" way.
Ledge parties, for those of you who didn’t attend party-school universities, featured fraternity boys luring their unsuspecting companions to a lair of choice, where they engineered some semblance of sex for the viewing enjoyment of their voyeuristic brethren, who watched from the window’s ledge. Unlike typical fraternity houses, these were contemporary buildings with plate glass windows and wide ledges that formed perfect viewing platforms.
I suspect mine was one of the duller productions, but, alas, I remember none of it. I learned later that some sympathetic brothers had objected to the spectacle and pulled me from the wreckage, which, to me, was remarkable.
Ledge parties weren’t merely tolerated in the fraternities — they were rewarded with knowing winks and backslaps. But my date had crossed a line: Apparently the fraternal code of ethics only approved of the performances when the girls were conscious (albeit still unaware they were being watched).
Long story short, a frat brother stepped in and stopped the show half-way. Her date apologised and dropped out of school. Just as she thought this was the end to a somewhat unwanted drama in her college life, her own sororoties sisters started to gossip about the fallout and blamed her, the supposedly victim, for all the troubles caused. What made her really upset, was that the very women that she trusted the most turned away, made her feel dirty, and betrayed her at a time she needed them the most. At the end, the sorority asked her the leave.
Then, some 20-odd years later, they saw each other again.
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