Prepular, A blog for frat boys and their fans

Today's confession isn't even new in a sense that a lot of straight (with the asterisk) college guys have gone through similar situations. But it's still hot. This frat guy had a crush on an incredibly hot looking frat dude he met on the internet, they hooked up, but afterwards the guy started to ignored him. Imagine if that was you and how that would make you feel...

I'm a 19-year-old and I'm confused. I met this guy a few weeks ago (he IMed me off the Internet), and he goes to another college in the same city. Now, I'm a very masculine frat guy (in the closet), and I like the same type of guys. I ended up inviting him to one of our frat parties and he came. This guy was pretty hot, and I liked what I saw. He only stayed for 15 minutes because the party was pretty lame.

We talked on AOL the next day, and he ended up inviting me to his apartment to drink with him and his roommates. When all his roommates retired to their beds, it was just me and him. He ended up kissing me, and we retired into the backseat of my Explorer. (more)

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College years means different things for different people. For most people, it was all about books, boys, chicks and beer. Those were really the years of insecurity and jealousy. If you are like most people, when you first start college you will be lonely, wishing to mate with as many different guys as possible, and trying to establish relationships the only way you know how. No matter how hard you try, there are bound to be some people in your social world that could potentially destroy your chances of getting with the guys you want. I want to share the types of personality I’ve learned to spot and the ways to manage them.

Alpha dogs (AD): There are hot straight guys and then there are hot straight alpha dogs that will kick the shit out of you for no reasons. Know the difference! Alpha dogs are emotionally insecure, and they have this unmistakable need to dominate. If an AD isn't good looking don't even bother to talk to him. The problem is, sometimes even it you try to stay away troubles will find you. After years of observations, one relatively easy way to get an AD to be less hostile to you (at least temporarily) is to talk to him privately you are just here to have fun and not to steal girls from his social circle.

Emotionally unstable bitches / House pussies: You can find them quite easily in any frat parties or house parties but they are actually everywhere. Look out for them. They are usually young, semi attractive girls and love to start troubles. They are very good at stirring up things, and then asking their boys in the frat to kick you out. Try to stay on their good side for as long as you can, if they still want to create dramas, let the guys know you didn't touch her or be disrespectful to her.

(to be continued)

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Of All The Fish In The Sea, Prom With Me

Thank You

Free Cookies and Milk

Fully Charged and Ready to Party

I'm a Proud Sorority Girl

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So in your quest to dominate your corner of the world, you might be wonder about higher order questions. Why is some people seem to always get the attention? Why am I not happy despite all the money I've spent on myself? How can I get a better job? How to manipulate the situation to my advantage? Why am I not getting any?

One characteristic that distinguishes a successful person from an unsuccessful one is the bias for action. Success often depends on taking action. It is scientifically proven that procrastination is harmful to your health.

Plan a "private time" in your schedule
Try to set aside at least 30 minutes every day that allow you to do something you truly enjoy. Often times, you are exhausted after a long day of work and study, the thought of having to set aside half an hour seems more like a luxury you can't afford. But it's not. This 30 minutes of private time, which may be spent on reading, preparing a nice dinner, watching a comedy, taking a long bath, jogging, gardening, writing emails to old friends, playing your favorite songs, is essential. It is essential because your happiness is at stake, and more often than not, people get too caught up in their daily work and life dramas, and forget to take time off and look after themselves. If bitching about little things really make you happy, go spend 30 minutes doing it. The whole point is, do something that makes you happy and look after yourself.

Do you remember an event in the past week that you truly had fun? Do you let the whole week passed by without taking time out for yourself? Or do you just feel tired all the time?

Take responsibilities
Every time you point fingers and blame others for an unwanted outcome, you are simply giving away your power. This is not to say you should put your hand up for every mistakes that are made in every situation. In fact, blaming others for your own faults maybe part of the important survival strategy in the workplace or in a group environment. The problem lies in people actually convinced themselves that there is nothing they can do to achieve a better outcome. In the process they gradually victimize themselves. You can not really control how people treat you, but you can learn to manage their nasty remarks and your own emotions. If you are not happy with your weight, is it a good time to go back to the gym? If your GPA is 2.5, instead of thinking it is irrelevant to your actual intelligence, is it a better option to book a meeting with your TA and ask for help with your study strategy?

Talk is cheap.

Working, studying and maintaining a full social life is tough. And to survive under absolutely Darwinian conditions isn’t easy. The most important things involve being determined to doing the thing, finding friends to help you out and commiserate when things have gone downhill, and just sticking with it.

Labels: college, self help

Is 10 year suspension too heavy a punishment for hazing? Sigma Chi decided to sue George Mason University, and to seek declaratory relief and money damages. The suspension was triggered not by a single by a series of events, which included alleged sexual assault on underage girls. The list of charge includes:

1) Hazing - 8:30 a.m. on Dec. 7, 2005, in the area of Fenwick Library on the George Mason Campus

2) Providing alcohol to minors – Sept. 7, 2005

3) Underage consumption of alcohol – Sept.7, 2005

4) Sponsoring a party under conditions that resulted in sexual assaults on a female guest - Feb. 26, 2005 and Sept. 7, 2005

As of now, the chapter is unrecognized by the university. The row continues online with Sigma Chi supporters leaving angry comments on the Broadside website.

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Liz Handlin, alumnae of Kappa Alpha Theta, shares her view on the sorority rushing process, its similarities with job hunting, and what people can do in both to win the game.

Sorority rush at big schools is an interesting process and as I was watching the proceedings it occurred to me that interviewees and interviewers in corporate America could learn a lot from sorority rush.

Potential new sorority members who enter the house smiling, happy, and poised have a better chance of impressing actives than those who look scared, unhappy, or unsure of themselves. It seemed pretty obvious from my vantage point which of the rushees would have a good shot at being invited back for a second party. I could be wrong about some of the girls of course...some of the girls who were quiet or less enthusiastic may have gotten a call back. However, generally speaking, no one likes to be around a sourpuss or someone who doesn't seem confident.

I was a hiring manager for many years and I can say with certainty that candidates who are friendly, polite, and confident have a better chance of getting a job than those who aren't. When interviewing for anything put your insecurities (we all have them!) aside and put forth a confident and happy persona. It will work wonders.

Labels: college, greek life, sorority, work

I almost missed this one.

Troubled by the declining membership, the Delta Zeta sorority at DePauw University sent letters to members that they deemed not attractive enough, and asked them to leave the sorority and vacate from the house. All the non-whites were also asked to pack their bags. When questioned by a New York times reporter, Delta Zeta's PR representative claimed that "the isolated incident at DePauw has been mischaracterized".

DePauw’s president, Robert G. Bottoms, later issued a two-page letter of reprimand to the sorority. In the end, DePauw disbanded the Delta Zeta chapter altogether.

Apparently this is the microcosm of how the game is played in the society as a whole, as Sororities and Fraternities are often seen as status competitions. If you can guzzle an impressive amount of alcohol, if you are hot AND snobbish, if you buy the right clothes and hang out with the right group, and if you join a frat / sorority, your status goes up. This is how most people see it. The point I want to make is, although it is easy to exclude people who are different or "less desirable", extreme measures like evicting people using looks as the single measurement is not only downright unreasonable, it gives the organization a bad name. I was heartened by the report that half of the slim, white girls who were not kicked out of the DePauw sorority quit in protest.

Labels: college, greek life, interracial relationship, self help, sorority

So you are planning to take part in the greek life, here are some resources from people who have been there, done that:

40 year old and still loving her sorority, is that normal?

Join a Frat?

Rude Frat behavior?

Dating a Sorority girl?

How do I choose which sorority to join?

Does joining a frat give you a lot of connections after college?

Do girls prefer frat guys?

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One frat guy finishes the whole keg.

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This has got to be one of the funniest, most ridiculous impersonation sorority video.

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Do you ever get turned on seeing all those pictures of hot shirtless guys modeled for Abercrombie and Fitch? I just found this video of 111 guys, of all shapes and sizes, met up and went shirtless in the 5th Avenue Abercrombie store. It was hilarious how they got kicked out.

Labels: abercrombie, college, fraternity

One very funny story about a fraternity guy and a "STD" girl...(via Pitt News)

Ah, the second semester of the year. Finally settled into dorms and apartments, the lines at the bookstore have dwindled down to the slacking few and students can be spotted nodding off in classrooms across campus already.

To the eager freshmen who survived their arrival here at Pitt in the fall, I commend you. You have passed your first test. No doubt your parents assisted you in this feat, your mother breaking down in tears as she made your bed, your father pulling you close for a warm embrace and asking if you need more money before they drove away.

Yeah, that'll change.

Entering my junior year, last fall I had the joy of moving into Bouquet Gardens. This time around, my parents slowed the car just enough for me to grab some of my belongings before tucking and rolling out onto the pavement as they flung the rest of my stuff after me, using the back of my head as a target.

But listen, my children, and you shall hear the embarrassing tale of my freshman year, and why this drop-off at Pitt was a welcome adjustment.

The braces had barely been popped off my teeth as I sat in the front seat between my parents, grinning idiotically at the big, bad world of the University of Pittsburgh as we entered what my parents still refer to as the "big city" of Oakland. After a mere hour or two of looping around Forbes and Fifth trying to find the Litchfield Towers - yeah, it was that pitiful - we pulled into a parking lot loaded with fraternity brothers in brightly colored Arrival Survival shirts.

My parents climbed out and I slid across the bench seat, stumbling out of the car, all the while staring at a fraternity brother who appeared to have a beautiful aura about him. The brothers pointed my mother and me toward the Towers to rent a cart, and offered to help my dad unload the car.

I walked to the lobby in a daze, fantasizing about the gorgeous fraternity brother offering his family's prize cow and $500 to my father in exchange for my hand in marriage. So this is what college was like. Life was beautiful.

Five minutes or so later, give or take 30 seconds, my mother and I arrived back at the car, rented cart and key to my room in tow. The fraternity brothers helped load my belongings into the cart and offered further assistance in helping us to my room.

Miracle of miracles, I ended up pulling up the rear with the love of my life, who turned to me in our first stolen moment of privacy and passionately whispered:

"So, you wrote a speech about sexually transmitted diseases in high school, eh?"

Followed by a snicker and an elbow jab to his frat buddy.

I was nothing short of mortified. In the five minutes that I had left my future husband, my father had revealed the dorkiest secret of my life: I had not only written a speech in high school about sexually transmitted diseases and the alarming prevalence among teenagers, but I also competed in public speaking tournaments with it. Why didn't my dad tell him I was captain of the Reading Team and led them to three consecutive first place wins in junior high while he was at it?

A sort of numbness took over my body. I know that my face must have been glowing the red color of the neon sign for the "O."

I barely noticed that my father did not allow anyone else on the elevator once we finally got one, manning it as though he were the Skipper on a private vessel to the 20th floor of Tower B. Or the fact that he tipped each fraternity brother a dollar for his help.

I'd like to tell you that I became a well-adjusted Pitt student following that tragic day, but it's simply not true. To this day, whenever I see a brother from that fraternity, he is sure to yell:

"Hey, STD girl!"

I swear a freshman that I have never met did it just the other day.

So, congratulations well-adjusted freshmen. And remember to keep the tuck-and-roll drop-off in mind for next year. After all, it's never too late for a dad to mark you with a scarlet letter - or three.

Labels: college, dating, fraternity, hot men, sorority, university

I don't know how many chapters have formal pinning or lavaliering ceremony. I read an old article from Penn State which they cite their frat members would "pole" the brother who has lavaliered, strip him naked, while other members thrown food at him. Of course, each fraternity / sorority has its very own rituals. I know many sororities do candle passes, usually for lavaliering / pinning / engagement or getting knocked up (whichever comes first!).

Question for guys: Would you ever give your pin to your girlfriend?

Question for girls: Would you ever lavalier a guy? Do you think guys and girls view the lavalier differently?

Labels: college, dating, fraternity, greek life, lavalier, sorority

I read something on Greek Chat today that got me thinking about in-group and out group behavior, and also the quality of greek meetings. A frat brother transferred from one chapter to another, and found that he had problem relating to more than 90% of the "native" members.

There are a few options available to him which include 1. Go with the flow. 2. Become inactive, and graduate as an alum in good standing. Or 3. Drop out.

The in-group / out-group effect in social categorization has long been documented by psychologists. We like in-group members much more than out-group members, the word"We" has positive connotations; "we" automatically activates positive associations. In many cases this liking depends merely on the knowledge of shared group membership.Not only that, people have a tendency to view all outgroup members as homogeneous.

Another member provided a very plausible diagnosis of the situation, which he believed that the apathy in itself is not the problem but a symptom of other problems. They may include overprogramming, events that are not of high quality and poorly-run meetings.

Have you ever been hated by our own frat brothers / sorority sisters? Please share it here.

Labels: college, dramas, fraternity, university

photo credit: L.G. Patterson / AP

Certain words automatically come to mind when we hear the word fraternity: party, quarterback, steroids, alcohol, hazing, servitude, dirty laundry. The Sigma Phi Epsilon brothers got into trouble last year with the university for hazing, a "kidnapping" incident so creative that got the campus police involved. Following this incident, the national group kicked out a few members and set new standards which included having a minimum GPA. Sigma Phi Epsilon now even has a "Balanced Man" intiative which add yoga, wine tasting and trips to Opera to its routine activities.

"It was kind of difficult for us," chapter president Keith Ziercher said. "It's been a hard transition."

Does a "more balanced" fraternity sound like something you would like to be part of? For those of us who have a frat boyfriend, would the current "taming" trend make your guys less attractive to you?

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Have you ever encountered a sticky situation of your members don't pay dues on time? Members not paying their dues affect the financial and housing stability of a chapter, yet it is not always easy to find someone to be the bad guy to collect money (and it is not always effective). I know many chapters use a billing service called Omega Financial, it claims to increase the net income of chapters AFTER the fees.

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New Greek chapters are established every month! This is a guide to help you set up your chapter's website with minimal hassles and cash.

1. Choose a hosting service provider. It could be free (e.g. Geocities) or paid (Yahoo paid hosting, ipowerweb etc). A very limited national greek organizations provide web hosting for their chapters, it maybe worthwhile to check out the national site to see if this service is available. Since most hosting services only charge a few dollars per month, it is actually more desirable to go professional especially you want to be able to run scripts on your site (more of that later) Blogger.com or Wordpress.com is a good place to start your chapter's blog if you have a small budget and have limited technical skills, the ads are not as intrusive as other free service providers. Try to stay away from Geocities or Tripods as they usually come with an excessive amount of ads on the pages.

2. Create content. No one wants to visit your site unless there is something for them. No one wants to read a 10-page essay too. The most common contents may include event photos and stories. If you use Blogger or wordpress then you don't even need html skills, you can easily post photos, add yotube video. If you decide to create pages from the scratch using html, css etc, try the tutorials at HTML goodies , they cover topics like how to align texts, create columns etc. There are lots of free web templates out there that you can use too, just search "web template" in google and you shall find. If you host your own site, you can install novelty scripts such as dating, quotes etc.

Regardless whether you host your own site or use a free service, you can always find free, third party hosted forums and galleries to add to your site. Flickr.com is a good photo gallery provider. Don't underestimate how powerful photos are for promotional purposes, if your chapter is engaged in building a new house, hosting a charity event or even planning a co-ed sleep over party, the photos can easily attract prospective members and alumni to be involved in what you're doing.

3. Get free links. Make sure you ask your student body to put a link up from their site, usually under the clubs and society page. Some colleges may be willing to help you promote your chapter by putting a link up from their faculty website, provided your site is related (e.g. if your fraternity is Chemistry focused you may ask the Chemistry department to put a link up for you, try to approach the "student activity coordinator")

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